I know, there are reasons to be wary of the New Year’s Resolution. They tend to be lots of fanfare, not much action — because it’s hard to change — and by the middle of January you’re back where you started, with an extra dollop of cynicism and shame on top. (And, to be clear, by you? I mean I.)
So I don’t do resolutions, anymore. Not exactly. But I do value the New Year as an opportunity to take stock, to review, to reflect. To set a new course, with updated agenda and goals.
I call this process my New Year’s Revolutions.
I’ve used different tools and approaches over the years. Some work better than others.
Last year, following the example of the inestimable Rachel Hartman, I went with one word to focus my year – organize. And I did get a bit more organized, and as I mentioned in my previous post, I saw results.
I want to try this model, this year, because follow-through is always a challenge for me. I fall off the wagon, say to myself, “Well, that didn’t work!” and eat a box of metaphorical or literal donuts. So one thing I like about Brogan’s approach is that includes strategies. And I very much like the perspective of the three words as “lighthouses”, or compass points, things to keep in my mind, to always be moving towards, rather than a target for me to succeed or (more often) fail at hitting.
Three words, three guiding stars. Three New Year’s Revolutions.
After some reflection, my words for 2016 are: health, happiness, organized.
(Yes, this is a repeat performance for getting organized. I can always stand to be more organized.)
Goal Word: Health
Path 1 to the goal: Make time to exercise or be active every day.
Path 2 to the goal: Allow myself sweets and naughty food on one “free day” a week.
Path 3 to the goal: Prepare healthy lunches and snacks in advance for the work week.
Distractions: Being tired, stress eating, not making the time to exercise or eat right.
Steps to the path: Buy fresh salad greens and vegetables all the time, so I always have healthy lunches and snacks; prioritize getting enough sleep so I have energy and willpower; make and keep regular appointments with all my health care professionals.
The finish line: Exercising 5 to 6 times a week, fitting into my size 38 pants, replacing stress eating with working out as a coping mechanism.
What’s next: Increase strength and endurance; plan and prepare to do the CN Tower climb in 2017
Goal Word: Happiness
Path 1 to the goal: Make time to write every weekday
Path 2 to the goal: See friends at least once a week
Path 3 to the goal: Make my workday commute my reading time
Distractions: Being tired, wasting time on the internet, feeling stuck
Steps to the path: Start that new D&D campaign with my friends, playing at least once a month; turn off internet on my phone regularly; write on my lunch hours; always have a book with me during my commute.
The finish line: Having regular (weekly) social engagements and activities; finishing revisions to NOBODY’S WATCHING and COLD IRON BADGE and finishing the first draft of a NEW novel before the end of 2016.
What’s next: Being able to retire “happiness” as a goal for 2017; getting my current writing projects out the door and move on to new ones; expand my reading to address some of the gaps in my knowledge and experience (like the classics, and poetry).
Goal Word: Organized
Path 1 to the goal: Check in with myself daily about what needs to be done, at home, and work, and for myself, both in terms of my goal words and in a more immediate day-to-day sense.
Path 2 to the goal: Check in with my awesome partner Sarah daily about how we’re both doing, about the kids, and about household needs.
Path 3 to the goal: Learn what needs to be done to keep our home well-stocked with everything we need and in good order, and act on those needs.
Distractions: Being tired; feeling incompetent; getting bogged down in anxiety and fear of doing the wrong thing.
Steps to the path: Make the first thirty minutes after the kids are in bed “family check-in time”; make lists of what needs to be done and review them as part of my daily processes; take quiet time daily, to think, process, and focus my mind.
The finish line: Clearing away all the “old business”, the things that need doing that I’ve left hanging for too long; having what we need at home and in our lives for ourselves and the kids, in a fair and equitable manner; being able to move forward with new goals and projects because the day-to-day is going so smoothly!
What’s next: Keep it up, because being fair, balanced and organized is an ongoing process.
Those are my three fixed stars, my goals for 2016: Increasing my health, increasing my happiness and being more organized.
What changes do you foresee making this year? What goals have you set, and what tools are you using to get there
Let me know. Maybe we can be part of one another’s revolutions.
Coming up next on the blog: I don’t know yet! I guess I need to, um, get organized?